The Cost of Pretending and the Healing of Jesus

Why do people act this way?

Many people feel the need to present a version of themselves that isn’t fully real. This often comes from insecurity, fear of judgment, or the desire to be accepted and admired. Instead of showing their true selves, they build an image they think others will love.

Why do people want to attract attention to their lives?

At the core, it’s about longing for validation. Social media and cultural pressures make people feel they must look perfect, successful, or happy all the time. By attracting attention, they hope to feel valued, but it often leaves them emptier inside.

How does this affect people and create two personalities?

Living in this way can cause a split in identity. One “self” is the public image—carefully crafted to impress others. The other is the hidden reality, full of struggles and flaws. This double life can lead to stress, anxiety, and a sense of disconnection from who they truly are.

What is the path to healing?

Healing comes from self-acceptance and being willing to confront the truth. Therapy, honest conversations, and safe relationships can help people face their insecurities and begin to rebuild a more authentic life.

How can Jesus help them?

Jesus offers the ultimate source of healing and freedom. He doesn’t ask for perfection—He invites people to come as they are. Through His love, people can find peace, forgiveness, and the courage to live authentically. Instead of chasing approval from others, they can rest in God’s unconditional acceptance.